PSA : The Buck Stops Here
I was going over a number of parenting challenges for the day and paused once again on the best advice I've ever got. Wanted to pass it on.
"No one can really give you advice. It is you who knows your kid best."
What's the best advice you've ever got?
ps... Note my tag on this. I have found of late some usefulness in categorizing things as either Macro-Parenting or Micro-Parenting issues.
"No one can really give you advice. It is you who knows your kid best."
What's the best advice you've ever got?
ps... Note my tag on this. I have found of late some usefulness in categorizing things as either Macro-Parenting or Micro-Parenting issues.
Labels: Macro-Parenting
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From my mother: You don't know how to be a MOM anymore than Danger Boy knows how to be a BABY. You'll learn together.
...and she was right. We both learned at the same time.
From an old colleague and mentor: You can read all the books you want and try all the methods out there but in the end you can only be you. The sooner you surrender to that reality, the easier it will be on everyone.
Drink more champagne.
(too micro?)
You know, it wasn't really from a person so much as a book. I read the Girlfriends' Guides as my opposing viewpoint to the What to Expect nazis, and the consistent note of "Relax, people do it differently and kids turn out okay" was a lifesaver.
To my friend, I now say that after the first couple of months, she'll have figured out her rhythm and her baby and feel more like herself, and she'll be okay.
(btw, haha, you're funny, lady. What did I do. Sheesh.)
Someone suggested that I pick a parenting role model/mentor. Look amongst my friends and relations, and find one person, maybe two, whose parenting style I liked, whose kids I liked, whose values were similar to mine. In short, someone who was parenting the way I wanted to do it. Find that person and watch that person. If possible, ask that person questions. Learn from a good example - a good example of my choosing, to fit my style.
It turned out to be excellent advice.
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